Self-compassion Self-compassion is the ability to be kind, patient, and understanding toward yourself — especially in times of difficulty, failure, or when you make mistakes. It means treating yourself with the same care and compassion you would offer a friend going through a hard time. Practicing self-compassion helps you accept your imperfections without harsh self-judgment — and without tying your sense of worth to them.
What is self-compassion?
Self-compassion is based on three core components:
- Self-kindness – treating yourself with care and warmth, rather than criticizing yourself for mistakes or imperfections
- Common humanity – recognizing that all people experience difficulties and no one is free from suffering, which helps us feel less alone in hard time
- Mindfulness – being aware of your emotions and experiences without suppressing or ignoring them — and without becoming overwhelmed by negative thoughts
How does self-compassion help?
- Better stress management – it helps you maintain a positive outlook, even when facing setbacks
- Greater emotional resilience – it allows you to bounce back more easily from failure and accept your emotions with compassion
- Reduction in anxiety and depression – it softens the inner critic, which often fuels negative emotions
- Improved self-worth – it nurtures healthy self-acceptance, leading to more confidence and overall well-being
Who developed the concept of self-compassion?
The concept of self-compassion was developed by Kristin Neff, a psychologist and researcher at the University of Texas. Neff has conducted numerous studies on self-compassion and its impact on mental health. In 2003, she published the first questionnaire designed to measure self-compassion, and since then, she has become one of the leading experts in the field. She is the author of several books and a wide range of research exploring how self-compassion contributes to improved quality of life and emotional well-being.
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